I Wanted To Give You All A Christmas Gift From Me And This Can Help You For The Rest Of Your Life
As a qualified dating and relationship and matchmaker first dates can be very never wracking, please see how you can overcome your nerves.
Getting Date Ready-The First Date
For sure you will be feeling nervous, you need to have the right mindset so you ooze confidence. Before reading any further I want you to visualize a team of people from different backgrounds that inspire you. Do the following exercise:
Create your Power Team. What I mean by this is imagine a team of people who inspire you; now visualize yourself as one or all of them in different scenarios—for instance, if you need to feel sexy, then have someone on your team who you feel is really sexy.
Confident: Alesha Dixon, Beyoncé, Reese Witherspoon, Susannah Reid, Holly Willoughby, Nicole Kidman, Anne Hathaway, Julia Roberts, Julie Walters, Emma Thompson
Intelligent and Strong: Oprah Winfrey, Karen Brady, Sheryl Kara Sandberg, Michelle Mone
Funny and Confident: Jennifer Aniston, Amy Schumer, Barbara Streisand
Who do you think is ultra-confident? I personally think Amanda Holden is a great example or Cameron Diaz. Both are mature, gorgeous women who always present themselves well and know how to make an impact in every room they go into. Were they always like this? No; they had vulnerabilities when they were younger like everyone else.
Now ask yourself this: How would Amanda or Cameron make an entrance? Would these ladies hold their heads high, give direct eye contact, smile, and walk with swagger? You know that they would, and you need to rehearse doing the same; practice until it becomes a habit.
I’m not saying change your personality, but just visualize yourself as someone like Amanda or Cameron. Tip: Think about your ideal role model for this exercise. Practice a few times with friends before you go out so you’re feeling more confident. It may feel embarrassing at first, but you are better off stumbling in front of a best friend than your date.
Imagine the following scenario, you are meeting your date at a restaurant, before walking in you take a moment to get into character so you become in this example Amanda or Cameron you walk in with confidence, shoulders back, head held high, big smile. Partway through dinner you might be getting on really well and having a giggle so switch to Jennifer or Amy. Try this exercise it really works. The characters need to be people who you really admire so have fun and create your team
It’s best not to treat the date like a date, think of it as you are meeting a new friend, thinking like this helps reduce nerves. It’s exciting because you may end up having a new friend for life or new love, a win-win. If not, just take what you can from the experience; what did you enjoy? What didn’t you like? What have you learned about yourself on this date? what would you change next time? Don’t forget to praise yourself for doing so well. It’s not as easy as it sounds going out with a stranger, you should be proud of yourself.
Have a wonderful Christmas and here is to an exciting 2021.
Love Lisa x